Recently I have received calls from Jolyne, whining about her son’s behaviour. Her son had been coming up with a lot of pattern. Jolyne was so angry and upset till she almost break down, tearing up his homework, chasing him out of the house etc… All this does not have any impact on him at all, he will just cry awhile and back to his same behaviour again. This routine continues again n again, no matter what method you use, its useless to him.
Actually till now I don’t know what overcome him, knowing this child since he was in K1, Jolyne was very strict with him, from homework to his behaviour, things he need to do everything, guiding him to be independent etc… He has been ok, of cause most of the times he is up to some mischief, but still able to guide him to the right track. After he went to Primary school, things started to change, not better...but to the worst side.
Pri 1 and 2 was still ok, of cause teachers often complain him, talk alot lal, not listening lal blah blah blah... since he went to Pri 3 and this year Pri 4, his attitude become worst. Playing truant, caught red handed by Jolyne but refuse to admit, telling lies. No interest in doing his homework, everyday just thinking of playing. His exams results was bad, this year CA 1 i think he fail sll the subjects. Jolyne so worry he will goes to foundation.
Giving him so many tutions, no improvement. He just dont show any interest at all, he just anyhow do his work, try to finish it quickly so that he can play. Try talking nicely to him, beat him, scold him all useless. Jolyne dont know what to do with him anymore. Even if he is in the wrong, he will just argue back. I cant provide any solutions for her.
I start thinking, is it because from small, he was not in a good enviroment, causing him to become so rebellious. From what i know, Jolyne and her hubby are alway quarrelling, 1 week can quarrel up to 3 times. I alway tell her not to quarrel infront of him, how would he feel? Her hubby will start throwing things, arguing, pushing all faults to Jolyne. I just feel this isnt right, the child sees and learn all the bad things from parents. Also in school, what type of friends does he have, you cant control all the friends he made.
Of cause i have friend's kid that are well behaved, there are times when they are naughty. From what i know my this friend was the one to scold and beat while her husband will later on talk to the kid, telling him why mummy beat him. He will actually goes and apologise to mummy. Teaching them what is right or wrong is important, to start as early as possible. While 1 party is teaching, the other party best not to interference, the other party have to talk to the child, why and how. Anyway it also depends on the child, his attitude, his mentality...
I wonder when i have my own kids, what type of enviroment can i give them? How to guide them to be a better person? Its not easy, not only have to guide them on their behaviour, on their school work, worries about the friends they mix with. Usually we are all working, unable to spend so much time with them. We cant really see what they are doing while we are working. We can only do our best.
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