Recently, hubby's friend call him to tell him his work place got a vacancy, ask if he is interested. Its a out-door sales job, on medical equipment, that means he will need to run out-door to different places and sell those medical products, he will require to hit target. Pay wise of cause is much higher than his current job, there will also be allowance plus commission. Problem is he need to convert his car as his car is a weekend car, if he wants to convert, need to top up at least $10K, it is not a small amount. And being in comfort zone for so long, at least at his current job, he dont have to worry. Every month fix pay.
Hubby's consent is what IF he did not hit target, will they just sack him? Our flat is coming soon, what if he suddenly kena sacked, than our flat how? Can we survive without part of his income for a few months? To convert his car also need alot of $$. And currently he still taking up a course sponsored by his current company, this course only end mid july. If he resign, does he need to pay penalty? 1 more reason is that he will be getting his bonus end April. If resign, will he still be able to get his bonus?
On the other side he feel he could do it, he like running outside, doing sales is ok for him. He wanted very much to change. He need a change, that's why he keep thinking and thinking. He worries alot. To me i see a opportunity, i wanted very much to support him, ask him to go ahead. But i have my own dilemma, if because of me, he decide to change, and if the job not successful, will he blame me? Its a totally new environment, different from what he is doing now. Will he become moody again?
If he succeed in this job, our income will be much better than now for sure, is alot better. I also dont know what to do. For me, i definitely will not consider, because i never like to go into sales line, i cant and dont have the courage to do sales talk. Hubby can, he is not afraid to meet new people and talk, thick-skinned. In the end, i do not have an answer, ask him change or stay put? I cant come up with a decision. I also dont wish i would be his reason to change or not to change, i know he would put me in consideration too, he has a family to take care of, soon flat coming, will it affect the HLE. He has to make a decision by himself, no matter what decision he make, i will support him all the way. Success or not, i will be by his side.
Its easy for me to change a job, as i wanted very much to change, i too have my own worries, what if 3 mths probation they dont confirm me? I will be out of job. I am doing my best, now i am not so afraid, people here are nice too, my senior was god to me too. This step out wasnt easy in the 1st place, i never know i have to courage to take a change.
Sorry dearest hubby, i cant make a decision for you. You have to decide yourself, although i wish i can help you by saying go or stay. If i do so, this will become my choice, not your choice. Its like a gamble, success or not, i dont know. But i will always be by your side. Love you always.
Hi Ah Pooh,
ReplyDeleteI feel that letting hubby decide, while supporting in what way you actually can, is really the best gesture of love for him.
I am constantly grateful that my wife lets me stand on my own feet, and make a decision on my own, while being there with the emotional support I really need.
In the end, I feel there is no absolute better or worse, but I feel one should not go for a 'better' job just because of the lure of 'better' income.
One must feel the job really calling out to oneself.
This also means that staying at the current, 'safer' job is not always 'worse' either.
I believe I also must be grateful for the good times that people are still giving me.
So I would humbly suggest that when deciding, decide with clear mind and sure feeling.
thanks, alot of things need to consider. Must really consider carefully. He has to decide himself.
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